They say that “mistakes are proof that you are trying” … and boy do teachers sure try. We succeed in many, many instances, but there are times when we make mistakes.
Yep, I said it. Teachers make mistakes.
While we do make general mistakes, like writing a word incorrectly on the whiteboard or that time 1+1 didn’t equal 2, there are 5 mistakes that we need to be more mindful of… and all 5 mistakes have to do with how we treat ourselves.
Teaching takes up a good majority of our personal and professional lives. We are overworked and underappreciated, especially when we think about ourselves. We are always putting others first. “Joe wasn’t feeling well today, I should send his parents an email” … at 9PM. Not only that, but we have a really hard time shutting off the teacher part of our brain.
And that’s what happens when you truly love what you do. You invest all of your time and energy, and you divulge your heart into your students and your classroom. But what about YOU?
Here are 5 common mistakes you are making as a teacher, and a tip for each to help you better manage your school and personal life.
1. Not getting enough sleep.
Sleep is number one, or it should be. Not only does it help you feel well rested each day and keep you from becoming an uber-crankhead, it’s healthy for you (ie. if affects your quality of life).
Not only does sleeping benefit your mind and body, but it helps with those pesky dark undereye circles and in some cases, they say it can affect your weight. Hey, you can’t eat if you’re sleeping.
I’m not necessarily saying you should come home and go to sleep. Although a 30 minute nap is great, you might just need a minute to unplug from everything. So leave your phone in the kitchen, go plop on the couch and listen to the silence (that means no TV!). Enjoy it and refresh your mind. Oh yeah, and stop pulling those all-nighters.
2. Not asking for help when it’s needed.
We like to fix and do things ourselves… we are teachers after all and we like to know how to do everything, even when that means we are taking on more than we can actually do. But I am here to tell you that it is absolutely okay to ask for help when you need it.
Have a behavior problem in your classroom? Ask admin for help. That’s what they are there for. Not sure how to teach fractions? Ask another grade level teacher for tips and tricks. Make your life easier by asking for help.
It’s also okay to just not do something. For example, bulletin boards… I despise them. So at the beginning of the year, I put up a generic bulletin board and call it a day. Well, actually a year… because then I don’t touch it until the last day of school when I’m taking it down. Not only am I saving myself time, but I’m not even letting the stress of that invade my life.
3. Spending too much on supplies.
Put the 42 boxes of crayons down and step away from the Target Dollar Spot.
Okay, okay! I know it is so much harder than it sounds, and I am completely guilty of rummaging that TDS, but do you know how much junk I have stashed in a drawer somewhere in my classroom of things I haven’t even used yet? I’m sure you probably have a very similar drawer…
…so let’s make a pact that we will begin to monitor how much we buy for our classrooms. That really cute notebook with the adorable quote on the front? Sure, it’s cute… but you’ve got 12 already. Do you really need another one? #realtalk
Let’s not even get started on those lightboxes…
4. Stressing over not having the Pinterest perfect classroom.
Pinterest and I have a serious love-hate relationship. I love it for everything that it does for educators… but my goodness. I certainly do not have time for every DIY project I have pinned. And I sure don’t have time for those bulletin boards. #notgoingtohappen
Let me let you in on a little secret… the best classrooms aren’t Pinterest perfect. They’re messy. They’re loud. There are kids walking around the classroom. It’s called learning. And that’s what we want – we want our students to learn.
I for one, would rather be remembered by my students for teaching them that cool math song to help them remember QDPAC … over the teacher with the really cool curtains that matched the rug, and the slightly OCD organized bookshelf.
…because who wants to be perfect anyway?
5. Not believing in yourself.
We all have had those days where you come home from work after a really exhausting day, you feel like crawling up in a ball and just crying. “Why did I become a teacher? These kids don’t like me! Admin doesn’t support me. My team isn’t there for me. I don’t know how much longer I can do this!”
Let me start by honestly telling you that I have said every. single. one. of those things before. Multiple times in a school year too. You are NOT alone, and you are NOT a horrible person for thinking and feeling like that. You’re human and you can only do so much.
So what helps when you reach that breaking point? Sleep. Disconnecting from everything. Spending quality time with your family. And taking care of YOU. Do something that is just for you and no one else.
Eventually those feelings will fade, especially after a really good night of sleep (or two or three…). But believe in yourself. Know that no one else can be you, and that’s what makes you unique. I know you’ve read the quote “You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.” So start there.
What tips do you have for helping teachers take better care of themselves?